4 Ways to Show Outsiders You Care

How do you show those outside your circle of Christian friendships that you care about them?

You’ve heard it said – “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
Those outside the faith typically aren’t interested in knowing what you believe. They are probably more interested in knowing how you live out what you believe. “What difference does you faith make in the way you treat me, or in the way you care for others?”

Four Ways to Show You Care!

Specific Ways to Demonstrate Care
1. Serve
How can you meet genuine needs? Can you offer to babysit your neighbor’s kids? Can you help your neighbor with a home-improvement project? Find out a need in their life right now – and offer to help meet that need. (If you don’t know what they might need – Ask them!)

2. Time
How could you give someone the gift of time? People are busy. You probably need more time in your day. Think of ways to give someone more time. Offer to pick up there kids and give them a ride home from practice or school. Offer to let someone go in front of you the next time you are standing in line at Starbucks or the grocery store. That’s a gift of time. Give up a close parking spot to someone so that they don’t have to walk as far – especially if it’s someone that you know.

3. Affirmation
Encourage others. Send an encouraging note, email, or text message. Tell them something you appreciate about them. Acknowledge their efforts. Celebrate their progress. Affirm their kids. These things are always encouraging. Give them the gift of your affirming words.

4. Gifts
Who doesn’t like gifts? I do – and I’m so grateful when someone gives me even the smallest gift. It’s a tangible expression of care. If you like getting gifts, others you know probably do too. Can you bake an apple pie for a neighbor? Can you buy a cup of coffee? Can you give someone a gift card? Gifts can open up an amazing opportunity for conversation.

Imagine how one of your friends who isn’t a Christian yet would respond to really seeing that you care. As you serve, give gifts and time, and affirm others – it will create curiosity about why. And it might actually lead to a spiritual conversation about how you’ve become a less selfish person as you are following the ways of Jesus.

Consider: Who do you know in your circles of friendship that is an outsider to faith? What can you do this week to show that person that you care for them?
“For I was hungry, and you gave Me something to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me drink; I was stranger, and you invited Me in; naked, and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison, and you came to Me.” — Jesus (Mt 25:35-36)

What matters to Jesus is tangibly caring for the needs of others! As you care for others, you help them to see the difference that God’s grace has made in your life. Instead of being selfish, because of Christ, you are selfless and kind and tenderhearted and forgiving and caring!


Dave DeVries

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Dr. Dave DeVries is a coach, trainer, author and founder of Missional Challenge. He is passionate about coaching and training church planters and missional leaders. With 30+ years of church planting and leadership development experience, Dave brings his passion and encouragement to those he trains and coaches.
5 replies
  1. carlou2
    carlou2 says:

    This totally personifies Jesus. Jesus came as a servant and He humbled Himself. If we can somehow do the same by all the things you listed, then we are bound to make someone notice and question why? Nothing is free in this world. If we are able to give something, whether it's a gift, time, a word of encouragement, etc. for no reason at all, for free… Then we might be able to make a huge impact.

  2. Janae Louws
    Janae Louws says:

    This is something that we all need to be reminded of from a day to day basis we get so caught up in our own worlds that we need to realize the beginning of evangelism is doing acts of kindness to people to open those doors to evangelize.

  3. bear-dew330
    bear-dew330 says:

    He came to serve not be served. Service and time are the best gifts when can give. Service because people just don't stop what they are doing to help others usually. Time is the most valuable gift because you don't have anymore of it.

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