Guest Post by Sean Benesh
Patience has rarely been a defining attribute for church planters. I’m speaking, of course, about “friends” I’ve known who are church planters…never, not me, nope. Anyway…
As church planters we rarely have patience. Particularly those who move into a new city or community to launch something from scratch. The ideal we have is that as we hit the ground we do so with a flurry of activity as we seek to will a church plant into existence (just like Lavar Ball willed into existence the Lakers picking his son Lonzo with the #2 pick in last year’s NBA draft).
Church planters assume (or feel as though) the one thing they lack is patience. They don’t have time for it. Besides, as soon as they step foot onto new soil, the clock begins ticking. It’s like (in the minds of most church planters I know–as well as from speaking from experience) we’re planting a church with an NBA shot clock. As a result, timelines are sped up, relationships are forced, and when the clock starts ticking down…5-4-3-2-1! –church planters then move into desperation mode and end up chucking up ill-advised 3-pointers.
Money, or the lack thereof, in the end becomes the defining element in church planting. What inevitably happens is: Church Planter A moves to City X and the shot clock begins immediately because the planter only has funding for 3+ years (or less). Those who’re really good at raising funds (and sustaining them) might extend the shot clock a bit. To drum up or keep support, church planters hype up local demographics and “unchurched” stats. Words like “darkness, “hard soil,” and “unresponsiveness” are used to communicate to supporting churches and partners of the need to extend the shot clock…and maybe (for the fortunate ones) to reset the clock. Besides, what does a supporting church in rural Indiana or Georgia really know about your community other than what you tell (or hype up to garner more support and sympathy for lack of momentum).
What a horrible, depressing, and self-defeating way to plant a church. While we all parrot “success” rates of church plants from years 3-5, it’s not until after year 5 when the attrition rate ramps up exponentially. That’s when funds are officially gone, your young toddlers are out of diapers and into elementary school, and the growing needs of your family are clamoring for attention (and rightly so).
So what do you do? What advice would I give to church planters just starting off? Particularly those who’re moving into a new community and parachute-dropping in alone…
Spend your first 5 years cultivating the soil.
Don’t try to actually plant until you’ve been there a good 4-5 years. Why? You don’t know anyone, you don’t really know your city, and honestly it takes a long time to build “real” relationships and become established. If not, you’re just another creepy church planter desperately initiating conversation in coffee shops like a drunk dude hitting on ladies at a singles bar. Oh, I know, because I did that (not the bar part). I’d talk to strangers next to me at the coffee shop, leave my business cards on the table after I left (hey, it did get us one new core team family), and so on. I was out of my element, out of my comfort zone, and being incredibly unnatural (and awkward). And you know what? It didn’t work. It doesn’t work.
Obviously everything is different if you already live where you’re planting. Now that I’ve been in Portland for 7 years, I feel like now would be the time to plant. I have a lot of relationships, friendships, acquaintances, and a growing social network. Surprisingly, it wouldn’t really be that hard (but that’s a conversation for another day). When I was a church planting strategist I’d say by far the most effective church planters were locals … they grew up there, had ample relationships, and could easily tap into their social networks…and they did.
I’m begging you, please…
When it comes to rethinking the first 5 years of your church plant, here’s what I’d highly suggest, implore, and beg of you. This is not an exhaustive list nor a step-by-step process:
- Don’t plant right away. Put away any thoughts of launching worship gatherings or anything like that. Spend your first 5 years building relationships, cultivating the soil, and getting to know your new home.
- Launch a business or non-profit. Seriously. If you have decent funding communicate with your partners and supporters that you’re going to spend the first several years launching and growing your startup. Why? Because (1) you’ll begin addressing long-term funding and longevity issues (what supporter / partner wants to see you bail out after 5 years?), (2) you’ll be able to spend time cultivating relationships in a natural way, (3) you’ll more quickly become an insider and a local, (4) you’ll establish and grow a social network, and (5) depending on what you start you could very well meet tangible needs or fill a market niche in your community.
- Get a job. I know, that’s about as dirty of a statement one could make to a church planter (that’s like talking bad about someone’s momma.) I’m serious. Do it. Get a job. Stretch out your funding. Then as years 3-5 hit you might be able to scale back your work and ramp up your planting efforts.
- Plan for the long term. All of this talk is simply about longevity. If your goal is to move to City X and be there long term, then plan for the long term. If your strategy is to quickly launch services so you can collect tithes and offerings to help sustain you, then I’d say your motives are skewed and maybe you’re doing this for the wrong reasons (like as a job or career change instead of a calling).
Ok, either I’ve offended you or endeared you. But I know you. I am you. I also speak from experience. I also know the 20-something year old version of me would totally blow this off as I would’ve thought, “but I will be the exception.” Even the early- to mid-30-something year old version of me might have at least listened and pondered…but in the end I would disregard it and think to myself, “but I will be the exception.”
In the end, the choice is yours. My heart is to see you send deep roots into your new home. More than that, to start a church and do so in a way where you’re around long-term (unless you’re wired to be a continual starter).
How are you cultivating the soil, building relationships and starting a church that will thrive beyond 5 years?
Cultivate the soil. Plan for the long term. Delay starting worship services until you’ve actually lived in the community for 4-5 years.
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